The Swingers Next Door

Fuck Fest

Tony and I are hosting a long-overdue play party with four of our favorite couples on Saturday.  Amazingly, we are the only common factor among these couples: none of them have met before!  Can’t wait to see what happens.  All of us having been counting the days: the flurry of teasing, naughty text messages among all of us each day has brought the anticipation to a razor-sharp peak.  Hopefully we can take a few photos and tell our dirty tales following our sex-capades.

Happy Swinging!

~Maria

Ask a Swinger: Are We “Too New”?

Excerpt from a real email exchange with a couple: “We really like you, but we think we might be too ‘newbie’ for you”.  (Swinger Dictionary: Newbie)

Nonsense!  Do not let your “newbie” status deter you from contacting an experienced, swinging couple.  If you wanted to learn to fly, would you meet with a pilot who has logged hours in the air, or consult a person who watched Top Gun a dozen times and fantasizes about being a pilot?  Look, I don’t know a rudder from a jackscrew (though both sound oddly like fetish-play items), but I do know how to maneuver my way through the ups and downs of the swinging lifestyle.

There are some swinging couples who absolutely refuse to be a couple’s “first” (or “second” or “third”).  I totally understand that.  New couples in the lifestyle often bring drama, uncertainty, or timidity to a date.  Many experienced swingers want to meet those who firmly stand within the lifestyle and have shed inhibitions, doubts, or misgivings about what they might encounter.

However, I like to think a little risk can bring great reward (gee… It’s probably best that I’m not a pilot after all).  Some of our most interesting and memorable experiences have been with couples first dipping their toes into the lifestyle’s clothing-optional pool (side note: if a swinger says “clothing optional”, the only option is no clothing).  Plus… Who better to help guide a new couple through that initial tremulous encounter than a couple who truly knows how to read signs and signals and knows how to launch past titillating conversation and into hot, hot action?

Our message is simple…  

Newbies: Do not hesitate to contact a couple with experience under their belt (I mean that in a rather literal sense, I suppose).  You will benefit from their knowledge, expertise, and willingness to take the lead.

Swingers:  Do not hesitate to take newbies under your wing.  You will be doing the community a favor by setting them up on the right path.  And you may just benefit from a night of mind-blowing sex.

Help Us Add to the Swinger Dictionary

We want to build a library of terminology to help singles and couples who are trying to enter the wild (and often daunting) world of swinging.  We already have several wonderful definitions in our “Swinger Dictionary,” but we need more.  Tell us which words, terms, or phrases you would like to see defined and discussed!  Thanks in advance!

Happy Swinging!
  

Swinger Dictionary: NSA

NSA (adjective - “no strings attached”): Sexually adventures without commitment.  exp. “Couple seeking NSA fun”

When searching or posting lifestyle ads, you’ll likely come across an assortment of terms you are not familiar with.  One such phrase is “NSA” or “no strings attached”.  The meaning is simple: no dating, no relationships, no texting… just sex (hell, you might not even know their real names).

The opposite of “NSA” is “LTR” or “long-term relationship”.  If you find LTR on a swinger site or on-line ad, it is most likely from a polyamorous couple or single person looking for a relationship within the lifestyle.

There is a vast grey area between NSA and LTR.  Many swingers - in fact most we know - enjoy meeting new friends that share their interests inside and outside of the bedroom and maintaining some level of long-term friendship.  We have a great core group of friends that we like to see on a regular basis at parties.  These are neither one-night-stands nor loving, primary relationships.  

We like to keep a healthy balance between friends and random hookups.  Swinging friends are fantastic and fun to visit with.  But NSA meetings (while certainly not for everyone) provide a naughty spark that stoke a primal flame of sexual desire and licentiousness.

Whatever your appetite - quick, random, meaningless, nameless sex; protracted bonds with singles or couples; or something in between - own it.   Make the most of your swinging lifestyle and have fun with your new friends and your primary partner.

Happy Swinging!
~Tony